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[BD] A polyamorous person’s guide to coming out to your monogamous partner

Coming out


le mercredi 22 juillet 2015 à 13h33


J'ai trouvé cette BD, en anglais, qui explique comment en parler à son partenaire quand on se rend compte qu'on est polyamoureux alors qu'on est en couple monogame : everydayfeminism.com/2015/03/coming-out-as-polyamo...



le jeudi 30 juillet 2015 à 17h11

Sympa cette BD, pour le peu que j'en ai vu et traduit lors de mon premier passage sur ce lien, merci MaiaDesbois, merci pour ce lien graphique, surtout quand on aime déjà la BD à la base !! (+)



le lundi 29 avril 2019 à 21h37

le texte (si qq veut le traduire) :

Along Came Poly: A Polyamorous Person’s Guide to Coming Out to Your Monogamous Partner
March 9, 2015 by Anna Bongiovanni

So, you've been thinking a lot and have discovered you are POLYAMOROUS.
It took a bit of soul searching, but YES, I AM !
I've got a BIG heart !
Polyamory and non-monogamy are relationship structures that include multiple partners.
However, you are already in a monogamous relationship.
And I love him SO MUCH !
Coming out to your partner as poly, especially if you've been monogamous can be difficult but not impossible. Sigh.
ans transitioning into polyamory DOES NOT HAVE to symbolize the end of a relationship ! WHEW !
Being Polyamorous can be done ethically ! After you figured out what it is you do and don't want for yourself and your relationship, the next step is to vulnerably and compassionately communicate your desires.
DONT Just make out with people without talking about it first.
So now that we talked about it, I've got a date on saturday !
DONT Expect things to progress quickly, without time to Process and without complete consent.
DONT Lie about what you're doing if your partner is uncomfortable.
I'm going somewhere with… someone…
DONT put off discussing it !
Waiting causes anxiety and adds stress to your relationship.
DO : Pick a good time and place to approach the subject
So, I've been thinking…
I love you bit this is something I need to eplore.
Reassure them but stand by your needs.
Most importantly, allow time for processing, healing, reflections, and learning.
Remenver, our society is compulsively monogamus, we see and hear a lot about monogamous relationships.
While non-monogamy remains invisible or displayed poorly.
Ther's a lot of negative things people assume-like it's slutty or bound to fail.
However, with vulnerability, communication, and clear boundries, they can be successful, exciting, and mutually rewarding.
That's what makes this SO FUN !
WE make the rules !
We can do this in a way that fits us BEST !
Be Patient with each other.
Like most new things, there will be hiccups and mistakes.
I'm sorry tai !
I didn't realize talking about my new date with my friends would bother you !
It's okay…
I didnt know I was poing to be upset…
Rules can be changed anytime !
Make sure you and your partner are educating yourselves as well.
Becoming Poly from a prevouisly monogamous relationship is a lot of emotional work for both partners…
But can be so woth it and lead to a stronger, healthier, and more fulfiling relationship !


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